Couples Therapy
You’re successful in your career. Your personal life is out of control!
It happened so slowly that you can’t figure out when or where things started to go wrong. Over time the two of you began acting antagonistic, distant and disinterested in each other. Your dreams for a happy future together have vanished. Now, all you feel is discouraged, numb, and lonely.
You wonder, “Whose fault is it that the two of you have become dissatisfied, angry, and unable to communicate?”
Everyone around you can feel the tension, even if you think they don’t. You used to talk enjoyably, calmly, pleasantly, openly, and honestly. When and why did all the fears, doubts, and resentments emerge?
You’re frustrated!
You’ve tried, but you can’t find a way to get close to each other again. Everything and everyone seem to be more important.
Working late, exercising, sporting events, girls’ nights out, family, and TV and other electronics consume any chance of couple time.
Teamwork was lost a long time ago. You doubt that you’ll ever be able to recover the love and passion that brought you together.
You’d like to rekindle intimacy and resolve marital conflicts, but you’re fighting about sex and money, or an extramarital affair. It seems like there’s no option other than divorce.
“What happened to the relationship we used to have?”
Where’s my loving, trusting, best friend and confidante?
What happened to the time for us – those long conversations at the local café, holding hands walking in the park, mini-vacations, and date nights?
What happened to all those things we had in common? It’s like we’re living in two different worlds now.
Been There, Done That
You feel vulnerable and hopeless – and absolutely miserable. Whether it’s been months or years, it seems as if your life has devolved into nonstop fighting, bickering, stonewalling, and silent treatment.
Your partner used to understand without judging you, but now you’re feeling misunderstood, unsupported, and insecure in your once wonderful relationship.
Your partner is probably wondering exactly the same thing.
Hope for saving your relationship…
No relationship is perfect – even the ones that look that way in public. You know those couples – the ones who look lovingly into each other’s eyes, always hold hands, and are kind and respectful. Life appears so easy for them. You wonder why it’s so difficult for you.
Many couples struggle with conflict and communication. Egos compete, and nobody wants to be the first to break the ice or be nice.
Disagreements and misunderstandings are inevitable. A couple is comprised of two individuals, each with their own view of the way things should be.
Unfortunately, couples can’t always resolve their differences in a satisfying way. Completely out of options, they resort to fighting and saying nasty, hurtful things to each other. They go through the motions of being a couple but avoid each other as much as possible.
Life can be better than that.
What happened to love?
A couples therapist can help you break the cycle of discord, or stop it before it takes over your lives. In sessions together, you will learn tools and skills you can use to communicate more clearly, resolve conflict, connect on a deeper level, and rebuild your love.
It’s important to know that couples therapy involves working on the relationship, not the therapist taking sides with one partner or ganging up on the other.
If you enter the safe space of my office full of anger, blame, and frustration, I will calmly ask you to lower your voices and keep the space safe for both of you.
The three of us will examine your cycles of negativity; uncover and face intense emotions; so you can calm down, reconnect and begin the process of healing.
As a Gottman-trained Couples therapist, I will help each of you learn how to manage out-of-control emotions, listen so you feel heard, and speak to your partner with respect.
You’ll learn how to resolve conflict in creative ways resulting in mutually satisfying solutions. Wouldn’t it feel freeing to leave resentment in the past and become a compassionate, understanding couple?
Wouldn’t it feel exciting to rekindle the love and romance you thought you had lost?
Start Right Now!
Couples therapy can be one of the most valuable gifts you can give each other. If you are committed to your partnership, the insight you gain in couples therapy can transform your life and all your relationships.
Call or text me at (301) 309-8077 for a free 15-minute conversation to experience the life-changing effects of couples therapy!